~Why or Why Aren't Black Men Dating/Marrying Outside of Their Race~ Finale, A Dialog

I know it’s been a while since I last posted a blog entry but it is now time to close out this series. I will refer to this black male as KB, He does not seem to feel as though black women measure up to white women. I wanted to try and understand his mindset during this segment which is a dialog.

KB: Most black men date outside of their race because everyone longs for natural beauty. Some, not all black woman will not embrace it. They hide it with weave and fake nails.

I had to intercept even though I am trying to just be the moderator. I said to him; "Lots of white women wear weaves and false nails. They also cake on more makeup than black women says this former cosmetology student..." (Some, not all, I know for the fact that we can't lump EVERYONE into one category just to make that clear)

KB: "But it’s mainly in entertainment and it looks professional and classy. Not stacks and stacks of hair that does not match their hair color. It just looks tacky sometimes and no one tells them. They think it’s cool."

I replied; "But there's plenty of black women that have them beat so how do you explain that?"

KB: I personally will give any race a chance if I find you attractive. But for me, I do not date a lot of African American females because they have been hurt and do not know how to let go of past experiences that they have encountered and live for now. They have a guard up from a prior relationship and the person that is interested in them now, doesn’t receive the time of day and they may genuinely be interested in those women. And when they do that, the guy is mad now because he was good and it turns him into a bad person as a result.

My reply; "That's respectable information and thank you again…

KB: You’re welcome; it all goes back to a person’s upbringing. If you have no respect for a man you will never have one, if you have no respect for a woman you will never have one. You will end up with a boy or a girl.

Me: That's true!!

KB: We have to make that change. If we do not carry ourselves with dignity and pride why would anyone what to be with us. It shows a lack of respect for yourself if you enter a relationship with someone and you really do not want to be in one.

My final thoughts are that, you should marry or be in a relationship with whomever you deem worthy.  If that person is outside of your race, so be it.  I do feel that it is wrong to look down on people of your own race because of a bad experience or two that you have had with someone in the past. Not all black women have "bad attitudes"... Not all white women are passive and easy to get along with.  Not one race of women are ALL as they are perceived, especially based on someones bad past experience. 

If you need a few examples of how some women of different races act, look around you with an open mind.  If you think that ALL white women are passive and doesn't have bad attitudes, Google or watch a few episodes of Bridezillas.  That will let you know that it's not just black women.   Thank you for reading!

*Slightly Modified